You stalked his profile, randomly read about his life, and he seems to be a good find. But life presented on the social media may be only a fraction of the truth. How can you be so sure that the guy sitting across you on a date is a man capable of a lifetime commitment?
His perspective about life.
Beyond the blind curves of good looks, one can go another step deeper into knowing a man by observing his outlook in life.
How does he react on the happenings around him? How does he talk about his career, his family, his neighbors, or his friends? Does he maintains gracefulness in words, actions and intentions amid chaotic circumstances?
Does he act like a self-centered narcissist who wanted the world to revolve around his opinion, feelings and perspective? Or is he a drooling egocentric maniac who knows nothing but his interest on you?
Is he in service to things bigger than himself? What is he committed to outside of you?
His radiance of inspiration.
Of what radiance does he create when he sits beside you? Does he always mulled to remove your underwear as proof-of-love? How does your heart react to the stories of his life? Does he exceedingly impress you to the point of intimidation? Or is he driving you off track on the tales of his own passions?
If his stories tell that he is complete, where could you fill in? If he voices that he can do it all, where can you be significant?
A good man will always inspire you. Regardless of whether you want to go back to school after 20 years, start a singing career or stay at home to raise a family, a good man will always support you and what you want out of your life.
He will always generate the fires of inspiration. His looks and words will always give you reasons to do more and aim for more – cheering on your victories and comforting you during your defeats.
A good man recognizes that his confidence and worth comes from within himself and never from attempting to place others below him.
His compatibility with your instinct.
On the truth of everything within the veil of your conscience, where does your instinct rates him?
I’m willing to bet that you have a gut feeling that tells where a guy’s at, but you often said, “Well, yeah, but that’s okay.”
There are men that can overly impress us. But at the critical moments, when you walk closer and closer to the commitment stage and slowly surrender your freedom, you realize that he is slowly breaking you apart.
In all these progression, the women instincts are always in the works. Do not listen to what your instinct tells about you but what it said about him.
A truly good man, by his presence, your conscience and instinct are always comfortable – far from the restless struggles and fears of being taken advantage.